There are two areas where many consider themselves experts, despite the lack of education: medicine and psychology. But try to fix the TV? Because there are much fewer parts. That’s it, that psychology and child rearing is not an easy thing and about how to raise psychologically strong baby, you can talk for hours. Today we will analyze as to do no harm, what phrases are considered taboo in the child’s upbringing.
1. Prophecy-threats – “behave, never married”, “come to a bad end, that’s for sure!”, “you’re gonna cry because if you do not listen to me”.
These phrases you predict in advance the child of failure. Remember that self-confident and liberated the children of those parents who is always praised. Such children are confident and appreciate yourself. If they fail to do something, they tend to seek the cause in itself, correct. Of course! After all, mom said he was the best of the best. And my mother wouldn’t lie.
– You educate him too harshly.
– When I asked him his name, he replied: “Vova Stop”.
2. You can’t do anything. Come on I myself.
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To adopt a Russian child, without parental care, German mom and dad are ready to wait for years and to part with big money
“the Law of Dima Yakovlev”, adopted in December by the state Duma of the Russian Federation, could not leave the Germans indifferent. At least because in Germany one left the child has ten sets of parents who dream to adopt him. Unlucky competitors are the only couple who adopted the orphan, seek happiness abroad – as a rule, in Russia and Poland. Many childless Germans, having learned about the new law, think: “Our countries are strategic partners, there are many examples of successful adoption by citizens of Germany young Russians. So why not simplify this process?” German laws are rigidly guarding of childhood – including “the Russian-German”. And the local foster parents in the vast majority belong to the adopted kids with great love. Knowing how many circles of hell they had to go through in order to embody this love in life, cease to treat this question as purely rhetorical.
In the footsteps of the shredder and Jauch
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Even educated and experienced moms sometimes bribe the child, understand though that it is bad. You promise a child to afford something that is usually not allowed. To bribery applies when you’re at the store buying your child another toy or sweets, only that he stopped complaining, and when you promise the child something (sweets, extra series of cartoons, another toy or something like that), if he does what you ask.
Many believe that such bribery is completely innocent and can do any harm. However, psychologists are sure that you nourish a child’s confidence, that’s okay-good behavior you have to pay. That is, what would the child himself dressed, you must pay that would have eaten your lunch, to put their toys, etc.
Such bribes seem to be a simple way of cooperation, but you force children to improve in the art of extortion.
If children are rewarded for simple and everyday actions, mandatory actions, they cease to strive to develop, and because for such a trifle you can get what you want. But in the future, teachers will not be rewarded for homework, the employer will not issue the award only for the fact that the employee came to work. You need to think about it and stop trying to bribe the child.
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