The Influence of peers on children’s personality development
We all learned that the teachers of the child are adults: parents, relatives, teachers in kindergarten, the teachers at the school. They all play a huge role in the socialization of the child. However, not so long ago it was noticed that the child’s peers: classmates in kindergarten, classmates at school, comrades in the yard are also a kind of educators of the child’s personality.
Usually adults perceive their peers of their children and their impact on the child is simply a fact.
That is, parents do not think much about how children raise each other.
Those who still think, in their own way relate to this. Some use it to make the child accustomed to the child’s team. As often happens with children, who never drove in kindergarten, and the year before school give there. Others, however, generally try to protect the child, for example, from street of communication. These children, as a rule, try to fill in useful activities.
Adults themselves pretty quickly forget their own child’s game. And don’t give out your child sitting in them. And the children begin to search for their games where parents can see them.
Thus, the children formed their own “subculture”. It has the features: sufficient autonomy, conservatism is similar in children of different countries.
Features games depending on the age of the children
It is noticed that children under 3 years do not particularly need to play with other children. Of course, they notice the other children. But do not play with the other kids, and next.
Between three and five years gradually the child begin to emerge, the need and desire to more complex games – role-playing. Now for games need a partner. These kids have no experience of such interaction. Conflicts, disagreements, quarrels between them.
Closer to five years the child already has an idea about how to fairly decide the disputes between the children. Children 6-7 years already interact a long time, sharing toys, set the rules, help each other and exchanging roles. At the same time, the child becomes less egocentric. Games have become much more elaborate, invented rules that are beneficial to all participants in the game.
Consider this attribute of children’s games, rhymes. It carries a regulatory function: helps to distribute the roles in the game. How will rhymes, depends the future of the game. For children, it has its value to the fact that children consider it to be objective. She goes to the younger children from older children. The argument here is “all done”.
This and other children’s traditional games help children to overcome various situations. These games give children an idea of what to do and how. Thanks to them, the child spends less energy on inventing, especially because children haven’t developed their communication skills. They provide greater confidence in the actions, because they give the idea that it is how you should act in this situation. And memorized these forms give a sense of protection. That is, they are in a stressful situation helps the child not to focus on the answer – it is already there..
For example, it helps children in the case of teasers or obzyvali. They are harvested excuses: you call me, translate on!
Of course, all sorts of teasers, this is a test for the psyche of the child. Often they resorted during the formation of the group or when a new participant. They help to understand who is who. If sound memorized the traditional phrase, children are more likely to get used to and accept such child in my group.
Faced with such a manifestation of the traditions of the children, the child may be scared, hurt, upset. Here it is important for parents to notice this point. And help to get through this time. It is important to teach that it is not necessary to tease and call other kids. Over time the child will learn to manage emotions. And the more and more confident he will behave with their peers, the more it will be valued among children.
After 9 years, children begin to use other methods to deal with situations. And to methods such as name-calling is used very rarely.
Thus, summarizing, we can say that the personality development of the child is of great importance to communication with peers. This is a necessary step. The child, along with the traditions of family, country, must be familiar with the culture that exists among children.
According to the results of a recent study revealed that up to 65% of preschool children invent their friends. It’s invisible, but the kids call them by their names, play with them for a long time, as with real children. They help to cope with the temporary loneliness. For the child, they have some reality.
The usage friends associated with positive qualities of children. Amazingly, these children are less shy, more creative, and they have more real children. It is assumed that such friends help children practice the art of conversation.
It has been observed that such children quickly and painlessly flow into the new children’s teams and quickly make friends.
The fantasy is of benefit not only in emotional terms, but also in cognitive. Children gain experience, which provides insight into the relationship between the symbolic representation and real world. The important thing here is that the child was able to understand this distinction.
Relationships with peers significantly influence the course of socialization of children. The success of future relationships in a child’s life depends on the development of social skills. Therefore, it is important to help develop these skills in the preschool years. Some psychologists believe that the beginning of outcast children often lie in the events of early childhood.