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Children Should love their parents

 

“The image of woman that a man must love, not consciously formed completely from the image of the mother. And chemically it works: you see an image in your blood is all that needs to stand out, and you stink”, is a business angel Alexander Cirovic believes that the baby doesn’t have to their parents, guilt is wrong, and unconditional love in the adult world can be.

“The image of woman that a man must love, not consciously formed completely from the image of the mother. And chemically it works: you see an image in your blood is all that needs to stand out, and you stink”, is a business angel Alexander Cirovic believes that the baby doesn’t have to their parents, guilt is wrong, and unconditional love in the adult world can be.

Imagine your own child running around with a nuclear bomb and wants to blow up a shopping centre. Surrender you to the police? In fact, it should be knit, if its action is a threat of death to numerous people. I’d have her baby tied. But that would mean that I never loved. To reach the state where your child is going to kill you, means that you in the childhood did very poorly. You hit him, he is still all revenges. I think this nightmare is taken from the setting of “love — marry”. From the fact that a pregnant girl in the 18-19 years committed to marry his on the boy, and the boy felt obligated to marry because his parents were raised. The love they can give this child?

We had no option to say: “No, I want other parents”

It was such a wonderful study: after the Korean war, Americans felt immense guilt for killing people and decided to take on foster care families USA remaining 15 thousand Korean children. The only criterion was the absence of mental illness among foster parents. Two groups of children, in fact, was divided: one part was in a family with a very average income, and the latter were accommodated to financially successful parents. At the stage school and Institute the difference was noticeable: more successful parents are able to spend more money and care for the child. These children were more advanced than children from families of modest means. But once all the children have finished College and went to work, they immediately equalised. What does this mean? The child laid when he was born. Whatever you influenced or tried to influence this child, it is an illusion. Children grow like grass, whatever you do. Boris Grebenshikov believes that our children gated God’s own conversation and destiny, and we affect it very indirectly.

All of our parades in honor of the liberation of Belarus form a sense of guilt for the fact that you failed with in arms to defend the homeland, and we must therefore be grateful to previous generations. “They fought, while we are sitting down and iroam” feel familiar? It all sounded too much like a parent who says, “I gave my life, I lived for you, and you’re so bad and generally put on a hat.” Actually, all parents have children for themselves. Some believe that the child allegedly creak of a faded relationship. The child, who is born, not asking for input: “Hello, you want to be born?” He has no opportunity to answer: “do Not want” and go back. All, he has already appeared. Moreover, he is absolutely helpless: let’s take care of me. If he had a choice, he may not want to be born here, in this Belarus and these parents. But there is no choice, respectively, and responsibility for their future actions, too, no no. The baby doesn’t have to their parents. The parents of the children have very much, they made a conscious or unconscious choice, giving birth to this child, ‘ will you please bring it to the point an individual person and member of society.

Are you sure you love your parents?

I believe that love is not predefined, and between parents and children occurs not necessarily. It is the choice of an adult person, and the person becomes an adult after 25: you can see how between 20 and 25 is detached from the parent-child relationship. The child begins to speak aloud: “Dad and mom, I do not like you wanted”. It is very painful for the parents, because they see the child an extension of yourself. Not an independent element, and the like as “my hand”, which I must move. And with this in hand she went to do something. Does it hurt when a child goes wrong, you lose a part of yourself. In your eyes the child hurts himself but you can’t to force anything. All you can do is to tell your story, what actions, words and deeds to what outcomes resulted. Maybe he’ll listen to you and with ten times will do in your life something different. But to get him to do his will you can’t, but if possible, it will be worse for both him and you (his childhood will last another 20 years, or even 60, and he certainly will be unhappy). Not very lucid people start freaking out and a lot of rotten poured over the child.

The whole process completes by the age of 25, after which we can speak of two adults and whether there is still love between them and the relationship. I think if you really honestly look at the situation, in most cases, will remain anything: caring — Yes, thanks — Yes, love — not.

“You’re all my life ruined!”

If we talk about the love between a man and a woman, then everything else. There is the concept of love. It is solely a chemical process which is terribly. We are born, we are cold, we yell, and then from the heat caused my mother’s Breasts in a blue dress — and now we love blue and rounded. The image of the woman that a man must love, not consciously formed completely from the image of the mother. Or in fierce opposition to the image of mother that hated you, that is also an addiction. And chemically it works: you see an image in your blood is all that needs to stand out, and you stink. Carries a period from two weeks to three years, the chemistry works, depending on the temperament and age. During this period, your feelings have nothing to do with who sits in front of you. You’re entirely focused on his illusory image, deal with it. Second person is able to love, because, inspired, you’re running around with flowers, champagne and evening in Florence everything is wonderful and even cause response. But it’s nothing to do with real love has not.

Then the chemistry disappears, and you see a real person from whom the shoes worn. At this moment another story begins, is much more rational. Strictly speaking, you start to feel how much you agree underlying value. How inside you are the same person. At this point, pussy and ass cease to have value, and compares the total view of the world and future together. If it is shared, it starts the work, based on trust and respect, from which grows a very different feeling of love. It is considerably worse and more reliable than the love that was in the chemical age. But this love is like a light mist, based on a very rational feelings. I’m talking about healthy relationships. There are, of course, and junk — basically, sadomasochism. Look at two people, and they’re torturing each other. They are internally not matured, and it is this relationship they give pleasure. This is a form of mutual suffering that can last a lifetime.

Parental love is something between adults should not be