How to teach your child to apologize, as in our age of consumption to talk to children about sacrifice and what is most important in Orthodox upbringing? We talk with Dr.
pedagogical Sciences, head of chair of pedagogy of the University, the mother of three children, Tatiana enjoyed.
When you began to study Orthodox pedagogy that struck you as particularly important? Why do you have to go this direction?
When I started studying science, I was shocked by the writings of Vasily Zenkovsky. They gave a different perspective of the relationship to the person, to education, to itself. At the time I was little familiar with Orthodoxy. I Zenkovsky I read about this phrase: “the basis of a person’s identity is the image of God, who is indestructible”. So even if the man himself unrighteous lives, trying to hurt myself, to Escorial this way, he is unable to destroy it. This optimism Orthodox pedagogy inspires me.
Each parent often has his own idea of what an Orthodox upbringing. How has it changed you?
Our eldest daughter was born when I was 21, and her husband 22. We “experimented” on pedagogy and psychology. Went to her and during our neovista. The family began votserkovitsya, when the child was four years. Remember, then on our call: “Anya!” the daughter at first baptized, and then turned around. Then I thought that we overdid that we need to change Continue reading
In front of me — pretty woman 35-40 years. The young and pleasant, and my hands were shaking and confused speech. “All my life raised him (the son), protected and supported. And he’s lying, cheating, come the morning. She says she is going to College, and he skips. No idea — what to do?”
Horoscope of the boy immediately reveals his complex character. The sun in Aquarius (an individual) in connection with Mars (his will) says that he has a fighting character who is not willing to submit to any framework. The greater the pressure, the stronger the resistance. General Aquarius is a very freedom-loving sign, and if something is banned, he will make out of spite. With him will not pass bans or strict punishment. You must give him the initiative and try as little as possible to say “no”. He needs to give freedom within reason and never deny indiscriminately.
Strong mercury is in conjunction with Neptune spoke about passion for music, namely, this area has always been considered in the house “forbidden”. The boy needs to learn to earn to life, said the Pope, and sent his son to study to become an accountant. His son was terminally boring to watch these boring figures. He used to skip classes to work as a disc jockey in a nearby club. He in his childhood he studied music at mom’s insistence, but then his classes considered unnecessary. Continue reading
Even educated and experienced moms sometimes bribe the child, understand though that it is bad. You promise a child to afford something that is usually not allowed. To bribery applies when you’re at the store buying your child another toy or sweets, only that he stopped complaining, and when you promise the child something (sweets, extra series of cartoons, another toy or something like that), if he does what you ask.
Many believe that such bribery is completely innocent and can do any harm. However, psychologists are sure that you nourish a child’s confidence, that’s okay-good behavior you have to pay. That is, what would the child himself dressed, you must pay that would have eaten your lunch, to put their toys, etc.
Such bribes seem to be a simple way of cooperation, but you force children to improve in the art of extortion.
If children are rewarded for simple and everyday actions, mandatory actions, they cease to strive to develop, and because for such a trifle you can get what you want. But in the future, teachers will not be rewarded for homework, the employer will not issue the award only for the fact that the employee came to work. You need to think about it and stop trying to bribe the child.
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