How to teach your child to apologize, as in our age of consumption to talk to children about sacrifice and what is most important in Orthodox upbringing? We talk with Dr.
pedagogical Sciences, head of chair of pedagogy of the University, the mother of three children, Tatiana enjoyed.
When you began to study Orthodox pedagogy that struck you as particularly important? Why do you have to go this direction?
When I started studying science, I was shocked by the writings of Vasily Zenkovsky. They gave a different perspective of the relationship to the person, to education, to itself. At the time I was little familiar with Orthodoxy. I Zenkovsky I read about this phrase: “the basis of a person’s identity is the image of God, who is indestructible”. So even if the man himself unrighteous lives, trying to hurt myself, to Escorial this way, he is unable to destroy it. This optimism Orthodox pedagogy inspires me.
Each parent often has his own idea of what an Orthodox upbringing. How has it changed you?
Our eldest daughter was born when I was 21, and her husband 22. We “experimented” on pedagogy and psychology. Went to her and during our neovista. The family began votserkovitsya, when the child was four years. Remember, then on our call: “Anya!” the daughter at first baptized, and then turned around. Then I thought that we overdid that we need to change Continue reading
Question: Hello! Son 7 years old, and he is very upset due to different lesions in the game, in some missions. Playing football with my dad — if it loses, in tears. Any arguments that this is a game and that daddy will not succumb, as the son of strong contender, do not work. Thus, he loses all the time — half-and-half.
The same thing: if takes to cut out a complex shape, it is impossible — in tears.
What to do with it? Soon to school, and he roars… Maria Archangorodskaja.
Meets Love Goloshchapov, child psychologist:
Question about the lack of healthy indifference to the result of their efforts. Well, let’s see.
First of all, for whom are these tears?
If the baby cries when the failure of even being alone with him, it shows his strength of feeling. High emotional stress need to lose – and they do it by tears, the most natural way.
If the baby cries only in the presence of other people is entrenched behavioural response. Speaking in Russian, loved ones react in a certain way (or reacted before) the tears of a child, and now that he wants the adults did it again, presses it into the “button” — the crying son/grandson.
That the child was given in response to my tears?
This is exactly what he lacks, Continue reading
There are two areas where many consider themselves experts, despite the lack of education: medicine and psychology. But try to fix the TV? Because there are much fewer parts. That’s it, that psychology and child rearing is not an easy thing and about how to raise psychologically strong baby, you can talk for hours. Today we will analyze as to do no harm, what phrases are considered taboo in the child’s upbringing.
1. Prophecy-threats – “behave, never married”, “come to a bad end, that’s for sure!”, “you’re gonna cry because if you do not listen to me”.
These phrases you predict in advance the child of failure. Remember that self-confident and liberated the children of those parents who is always praised. Such children are confident and appreciate yourself. If they fail to do something, they tend to seek the cause in itself, correct. Of course! After all, mom said he was the best of the best. And my mother wouldn’t lie.
– You educate him too harshly.
– When I asked him his name, he replied: “Vova Stop”.
2. You can’t do anything. Come on I myself.
Probably you wanted to say with the best intentions, tired of watching Continue reading