Remember the cartoon in which a delinquent child had to correctly place a comma in the sentence “to Execute pardon”. But You asked such a question in those moments, when favorite son or daughter was raskolniki? And where You put the comma?
This article talks about the relationship between the child and parents, on how to punish the kid for bad behavior, in order to avoid mistakes in the upbringing.
How does it start?
But it all begins with the parental home, of family values and environment in which the baby grows. Since the first days of life, he absorbs like a sponge everything that surrounds it. And at this point it is important to grasp the distinction between punishment and the manifestation of an act of child abuse. After all, the purpose of punishment – to convey to the child what he did wrong and to prevent it in the future.
The rules of what is permitted
All parents want to educate exemplary and obedient children. But in fact the result is not quite as desirable. We are all human and entitled to mistakes. Kids are no exception. A broken vase, scattered toys, the next two in mathematics, a call to the principal for bad behavior – learn Continue reading
Question: Hello! Son 7 years old, and he is very upset due to different lesions in the game, in some missions. Playing football with my dad — if it loses, in tears. Any arguments that this is a game and that daddy will not succumb, as the son of strong contender, do not work. Thus, he loses all the time — half-and-half.
The same thing: if takes to cut out a complex shape, it is impossible — in tears.
What to do with it? Soon to school, and he roars… Maria Archangorodskaja.
Meets Love Goloshchapov, child psychologist:
Question about the lack of healthy indifference to the result of their efforts. Well, let’s see.
First of all, for whom are these tears?
If the baby cries when the failure of even being alone with him, it shows his strength of feeling. High emotional stress need to lose – and they do it by tears, the most natural way.
If the baby cries only in the presence of other people is entrenched behavioural response. Speaking in Russian, loved ones react in a certain way (or reacted before) the tears of a child, and now that he wants the adults did it again, presses it into the “button” — the crying son/grandson.
That the child was given in response to my tears?
This is exactly what he lacks, Continue reading
In front of me — pretty woman 35-40 years. The young and pleasant, and my hands were shaking and confused speech. “All my life raised him (the son), protected and supported. And he’s lying, cheating, come the morning. She says she is going to College, and he skips. No idea — what to do?”
Horoscope of the boy immediately reveals his complex character. The sun in Aquarius (an individual) in connection with Mars (his will) says that he has a fighting character who is not willing to submit to any framework. The greater the pressure, the stronger the resistance. General Aquarius is a very freedom-loving sign, and if something is banned, he will make out of spite. With him will not pass bans or strict punishment. You must give him the initiative and try as little as possible to say “no”. He needs to give freedom within reason and never deny indiscriminately.
Strong mercury is in conjunction with Neptune spoke about passion for music, namely, this area has always been considered in the house “forbidden”. The boy needs to learn to earn to life, said the Pope, and sent his son to study to become an accountant. His son was terminally boring to watch these boring figures. He used to skip classes to work as a disc jockey in a nearby club. He in his childhood he studied music at mom’s insistence, but then his classes considered unnecessary. Continue reading