How to teach your child to apologize, as in our age of consumption to talk to children about sacrifice and what is most important in Orthodox upbringing? We talk with Dr.
pedagogical Sciences, head of chair of pedagogy of the University, the mother of three children, Tatiana enjoyed.
When you began to study Orthodox pedagogy that struck you as particularly important? Why do you have to go this direction?
When I started studying science, I was shocked by the writings of Vasily Zenkovsky. They gave a different perspective of the relationship to the person, to education, to itself. At the time I was little familiar with Orthodoxy. I Zenkovsky I read about this phrase: “the basis of a person’s identity is the image of God, who is indestructible”. So even if the man himself unrighteous lives, trying to hurt myself, to Escorial this way, he is unable to destroy it. This optimism Orthodox pedagogy inspires me.
Each parent often has his own idea of what an Orthodox upbringing. How has it changed you?
Our eldest daughter was born when I was 21, and her husband 22. We “experimented” on pedagogy and psychology. Went to her and during our neovista. The family began votserkovitsya, when the child was four years. Remember, then on our call: “Anya!” the daughter at first baptized, and then turned around. Then I thought that we overdid that we need to change Continue reading
Remember the cartoon in which a delinquent child had to correctly place a comma in the sentence “to Execute pardon”. But You asked such a question in those moments, when favorite son or daughter was raskolniki? And where You put the comma?
This article talks about the relationship between the child and parents, on how to punish the kid for bad behavior, in order to avoid mistakes in the upbringing.
How does it start?
But it all begins with the parental home, of family values and environment in which the baby grows. Since the first days of life, he absorbs like a sponge everything that surrounds it. And at this point it is important to grasp the distinction between punishment and the manifestation of an act of child abuse. After all, the purpose of punishment – to convey to the child what he did wrong and to prevent it in the future.
The rules of what is permitted
All parents want to educate exemplary and obedient children. But in fact the result is not quite as desirable. We are all human and entitled to mistakes. Kids are no exception. A broken vase, scattered toys, the next two in mathematics, a call to the principal for bad behavior – learn Continue reading
Question: Hello! Son 7 years old, and he is very upset due to different lesions in the game, in some missions. Playing football with my dad — if it loses, in tears. Any arguments that this is a game and that daddy will not succumb, as the son of strong contender, do not work. Thus, he loses all the time — half-and-half.
The same thing: if takes to cut out a complex shape, it is impossible — in tears.
What to do with it? Soon to school, and he roars… Maria Archangorodskaja.
Meets Love Goloshchapov, child psychologist:
Question about the lack of healthy indifference to the result of their efforts. Well, let’s see.
First of all, for whom are these tears?
If the baby cries when the failure of even being alone with him, it shows his strength of feeling. High emotional stress need to lose – and they do it by tears, the most natural way.
If the baby cries only in the presence of other people is entrenched behavioural response. Speaking in Russian, loved ones react in a certain way (or reacted before) the tears of a child, and now that he wants the adults did it again, presses it into the “button” — the crying son/grandson.
That the child was given in response to my tears?
This is exactly what he lacks, Continue reading