We all develop
gradually, and not parents
Recognition of the benefits, success
Recognition of achievements is a technique that helps the child to master yourself
worthy and special. Draw the attention to the side
life, where he has already achieved or is achieving currently successes.
success and confidence in the here and now and inspires children to new
Recognition of the benefits, success enhances motivation.
Recognition of the benefits enhances self-esteem.
Recognition of the benefits, success strengthens self-confidence
Recognition of the benefits, success encourages children to set new
Recognition of the merits of developing a sense of responsibility.
1. Recognizing the strengths and successes of the child, approach it creatively. Advantages of your child does not necessarily have to be associated with “star” achievements or to determine that they are doing something good. Participation, effort and the joy of being useful, too, deserves recognition.
Don’t forget that achievements can be expressed not only in the diplomas and prizes.
Remember the cartoon in which a delinquent child had to correctly place a comma in the sentence “to Execute pardon”. But You asked such a question in those moments, when favorite son or daughter was raskolniki? And where You put the comma?
This article talks about the relationship between the child and parents, on how to punish the kid for bad behavior, in order to avoid mistakes in the upbringing.
How does it start?
But it all begins with the parental home, of family values and environment in which the baby grows. Since the first days of life, he absorbs like a sponge everything that surrounds it. And at this point it is important to grasp the distinction between punishment and the manifestation of an act of child abuse. After all, the purpose of punishment – to convey to the child what he did wrong and to prevent it in the future.
The rules of what is permitted
All parents want to educate exemplary and obedient children. But in fact the result is not quite as desirable. We are all human and entitled to mistakes. Kids are no exception. A broken vase, scattered toys, the next two in mathematics, a call to the principal for bad behavior – learn Continue reading
Question: Hello! Son 7 years old, and he is very upset due to different lesions in the game, in some missions. Playing football with my dad — if it loses, in tears. Any arguments that this is a game and that daddy will not succumb, as the son of strong contender, do not work. Thus, he loses all the time — half-and-half.
The same thing: if takes to cut out a complex shape, it is impossible — in tears.
What to do with it? Soon to school, and he roars… Maria Archangorodskaja.
Meets Love Goloshchapov, child psychologist:
Question about the lack of healthy indifference to the result of their efforts. Well, let’s see.
First of all, for whom are these tears?
If the baby cries when the failure of even being alone with him, it shows his strength of feeling. High emotional stress need to lose – and they do it by tears, the most natural way.
If the baby cries only in the presence of other people is entrenched behavioural response. Speaking in Russian, loved ones react in a certain way (or reacted before) the tears of a child, and now that he wants the adults did it again, presses it into the “button” — the crying son/grandson.
That the child was given in response to my tears?
This is exactly what he lacks, Continue reading