Question: Hello! Son 7 years old, and he is very upset due to different lesions in the game, in some missions. Playing football with my dad — if it loses, in tears. Any arguments that this is a game and that daddy will not succumb, as the son of strong contender, do not work. Thus, he loses all the time — half-and-half.
The same thing: if takes to cut out a complex shape, it is impossible — in tears.
What to do with it? Soon to school, and he roars… Maria Archangorodskaja.
Meets Love Goloshchapov, child psychologist:
Question about the lack of healthy indifference to the result of their efforts. Well, let’s see.
First of all, for whom are these tears?
If the baby cries when the failure of even being alone with him, it shows his strength of feeling. High emotional stress need to lose – and they do it by tears, the most natural way.
If the baby cries only in the presence of other people is entrenched behavioural response. Speaking in Russian, loved ones react in a certain way (or reacted before) the tears of a child, and now that he wants the adults did it again, presses it into the “button” — the crying son/grandson.
That the child was given in response to my tears?
This is exactly what he lacks, Continue reading
There are two areas where many consider themselves experts, despite the lack of education: medicine and psychology. But try to fix the TV? Because there are much fewer parts. That’s it, that psychology and child rearing is not an easy thing and about how to raise psychologically strong baby, you can talk for hours. Today we will analyze as to do no harm, what phrases are considered taboo in the child’s upbringing.
1. Prophecy-threats – “behave, never married”, “come to a bad end, that’s for sure!”, “you’re gonna cry because if you do not listen to me”.
These phrases you predict in advance the child of failure. Remember that self-confident and liberated the children of those parents who is always praised. Such children are confident and appreciate yourself. If they fail to do something, they tend to seek the cause in itself, correct. Of course! After all, mom said he was the best of the best. And my mother wouldn’t lie.
– You educate him too harshly.
– When I asked him his name, he replied: “Vova Stop”.
2. You can’t do anything. Come on I myself.
Probably you wanted to say with the best intentions, tired of watching Continue reading
For the first time faced with the lies of children, parents are asking a logical question: how do I teach my child to lie? Children lie makes us sincere bewilderment: after all, from an early age we teach our children that lying is bad! Why child began to lie? Do upbringing in vain? And most importantly – what to do now? Let’s see, what is a children’s lies: parent fiasco, bad peer influence, or simply a natural stage of growing up – and what should parents do in this situation.
Why do children lie?
First of all we should recall the definition of a lie is a deliberate distortion of the truth. A lie always conscious, so before you accuse the offspring of lying, you must be sure that he lied deliberately. The duty of parents is to distinguish when a child is lying, and when wrong. Lies are not necessarily lies in the words – silence may be no less false. To the question “who ate the candy?” — the kid answers: “did the cat” – or simply bashfully silent and looks away. Many parents believe that if the child did not utter a lie out loud, he wasn’t lying. This is not so. To can distort the truth in word and silence, and even action.
So, you have determined that the child is lying. Continue reading