Most often this question is raised by those parents who can’t find a common language with their child and want to influence him. Although, of course, some simply want to top up their knowledge for a better and proper upbringing of their children. This article will be useful for both.
Our website Love-911 decided to consider what you must to raise children and how to influence them so that it and we are good and useful and doesn’t break them, as individuals, what often happens when we try to influence them, and act incorrectly.
To do this you must understand: when you can impact on the child, and when he only done harm?
Let us consider an example.
You say that the child was dancing and he wants – on knitting, because he doesn’t like dancing and he loves knitting. It is defending its position, and your task is either to convince him that dancing he wants more and more useful. And indeed it is. Either accept that Your arguments it’s only Your desires, but not his.
The fact that parents often forget that the word parent is not a synonym for the words: master, commander, sir.
The parent is a friend, partner, older brother, teacher, boss.
I would like to elaborate on the word – head.
The chief – manages and provides direction, but only Continue reading
How to teach your child to apologize, as in our age of consumption to talk to children about sacrifice and what is most important in Orthodox upbringing? We talk with Dr.
pedagogical Sciences, head of chair of pedagogy of the University, the mother of three children, Tatiana enjoyed.
When you began to study Orthodox pedagogy that struck you as particularly important? Why do you have to go this direction?
When I started studying science, I was shocked by the writings of Vasily Zenkovsky. They gave a different perspective of the relationship to the person, to education, to itself. At the time I was little familiar with Orthodoxy. I Zenkovsky I read about this phrase: “the basis of a person’s identity is the image of God, who is indestructible”. So even if the man himself unrighteous lives, trying to hurt myself, to Escorial this way, he is unable to destroy it. This optimism Orthodox pedagogy inspires me.
Each parent often has his own idea of what an Orthodox upbringing. How has it changed you?
Our eldest daughter was born when I was 21, and her husband 22. We “experimented” on pedagogy and psychology. Went to her and during our neovista. The family began votserkovitsya, when the child was four years. Remember, then on our call: “Anya!” the daughter at first baptized, and then turned around. Then I thought that we overdid that we need to change Continue reading
Question: Hello! Son 7 years old, and he is very upset due to different lesions in the game, in some missions. Playing football with my dad — if it loses, in tears. Any arguments that this is a game and that daddy will not succumb, as the son of strong contender, do not work. Thus, he loses all the time — half-and-half.
The same thing: if takes to cut out a complex shape, it is impossible — in tears.
What to do with it? Soon to school, and he roars… Maria Archangorodskaja.
Meets Love Goloshchapov, child psychologist:
Question about the lack of healthy indifference to the result of their efforts. Well, let’s see.
First of all, for whom are these tears?
If the baby cries when the failure of even being alone with him, it shows his strength of feeling. High emotional stress need to lose – and they do it by tears, the most natural way.
If the baby cries only in the presence of other people is entrenched behavioural response. Speaking in Russian, loved ones react in a certain way (or reacted before) the tears of a child, and now that he wants the adults did it again, presses it into the “button” — the crying son/grandson.
That the child was given in response to my tears?
This is exactly what he lacks, Continue reading