Most often this question is raised by those parents who can’t find a common language with their child and want to influence him. Although, of course, some simply want to top up their knowledge for a better and proper upbringing of their children. This article will be useful for both.
Our website Love-911 decided to consider what you must to raise children and how to influence them so that it and we are good and useful and doesn’t break them, as individuals, what often happens when we try to influence them, and act incorrectly.
To do this you must understand: when you can impact on the child, and when he only done harm?
Let us consider an example.
You say that the child was dancing and he wants – on knitting, because he doesn’t like dancing and he loves knitting. It is defending its position, and your task is either to convince him that dancing he wants more and more useful. And indeed it is. Either accept that Your arguments it’s only Your desires, but not his.
The fact that parents often forget that the word parent is not a synonym for the words: master, commander, sir.
The parent is a friend, partner, older brother, teacher, boss.
I would like to elaborate on the word – head.
The chief – manages and provides direction, but only Continue reading
Question: Hello! Son 7 years old, and he is very upset due to different lesions in the game, in some missions. Playing football with my dad — if it loses, in tears. Any arguments that this is a game and that daddy will not succumb, as the son of strong contender, do not work. Thus, he loses all the time — half-and-half.
The same thing: if takes to cut out a complex shape, it is impossible — in tears.
What to do with it? Soon to school, and he roars… Maria Archangorodskaja.
Meets Love Goloshchapov, child psychologist:
Question about the lack of healthy indifference to the result of their efforts. Well, let’s see.
First of all, for whom are these tears?
If the baby cries when the failure of even being alone with him, it shows his strength of feeling. High emotional stress need to lose – and they do it by tears, the most natural way.
If the baby cries only in the presence of other people is entrenched behavioural response. Speaking in Russian, loved ones react in a certain way (or reacted before) the tears of a child, and now that he wants the adults did it again, presses it into the “button” — the crying son/grandson.
That the child was given in response to my tears?
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Today, the family acts as an important factor in personality development. Here the child is born, he receives an initial knowledge about the world and first experience.
Feature of family education is the fact that the family constitutes a mixed-age social group there are representatives of two, three and sometimes four generations. This means different values, different evaluation criteria the phenomena of life, different ideals, opinions, beliefs, and allows you to create some traditions.
Family education is organically connected with the whole life of a growing person. In the family the child is included in the vital activities through all its stages: from basic attempts to pick up a spoon to hammer a nail) to complex social and personal significant forms of behavior.
Family education also has a wide time range effects: it continues throughout a person’s life, occurs at any time of day, any time of the year.
Family climate is the life of the parents, their relationship, family spirit. Children rudeness, callousness, indifference, indiscipline, usually Continue reading