We all develop
gradually, and not parents
Recognition of the benefits, success
Recognition of achievements is a technique that helps the child to master yourself
worthy and special. Draw the attention to the side
life, where he has already achieved or is achieving currently successes.
success and confidence in the here and now and inspires children to new
Recognition of the benefits, success enhances motivation.
Recognition of the benefits enhances self-esteem.
Recognition of the benefits, success strengthens self-confidence
Recognition of the benefits, success encourages children to set new
Recognition of the merits of developing a sense of responsibility.
1. Recognizing the strengths and successes of the child, approach it creatively. Advantages of your child does not necessarily have to be associated with “star” achievements or to determine that they are doing something good. Participation, effort and the joy of being useful, too, deserves recognition.
Don’t forget that achievements can be expressed not only in the diplomas and prizes.
Select the description that most closely matches the behavior of your child.
1. As usual your little one responds to the comments of the parents (or teachers)?
A. Promises, swears that this is the last time, but soon again does the same thing.
B. is Angry, resentful and eventually go his own way.
V. Quietly pleads guilty.
G. Offended, upset, crying.
2. As your child enters situations that require quick and decisive action?
A. It instantly covers the excitement.
B. Acts fast and vigorously.
V. behaves calmly and intently.
G. Acts hesitantly, timidly.
3. What behavioral line child adheres to a dispute with their peers?
A. makes its points, but it tries to take into account the opinions of others.
B. Excited, get angry, no one wants to listen.
V. Says confidently, without much emotion, consistent in the presentation of his thoughts.
G. behaves very hesitantly.
4. How your child behaves, being in an unfamiliar environment, a new place (e.g., in a doctor’s office).
A. Quickly adapts to new circumstances, behaves animatedly, showing interest in his surroundings.
B. Quickly excited, sometimes nervous.
V. Quietly eyeing an unusual situation.
Even educated and experienced moms sometimes bribe the child, understand though that it is bad. You promise a child to afford something that is usually not allowed. To bribery applies when you’re at the store buying your child another toy or sweets, only that he stopped complaining, and when you promise the child something (sweets, extra series of cartoons, another toy or something like that), if he does what you ask.
Many believe that such bribery is completely innocent and can do any harm. However, psychologists are sure that you nourish a child’s confidence, that’s okay-good behavior you have to pay. That is, what would the child himself dressed, you must pay that would have eaten your lunch, to put their toys, etc.
Such bribes seem to be a simple way of cooperation, but you force children to improve in the art of extortion.
If children are rewarded for simple and everyday actions, mandatory actions, they cease to strive to develop, and because for such a trifle you can get what you want. But in the future, teachers will not be rewarded for homework, the employer will not issue the award only for the fact that the employee came to work. You need to think about it and stop trying to bribe the child.
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